If Someone Says This They’re Trying to Manipulating You

People have been emotionally manipulating others for ages. Probably since the beginning of time. Maybe they do it without realizing. Or maybe they think it’s OK. Whatever the case, they’re going to keep doing it until we no longer fall for it. A popular form of manipulation is either-or statements. But they don’t need toContinue reading “If Someone Says This They’re Trying to Manipulating You”

33+ Examples of All-or-Nothing Thinking

Certain words are associated with all-or-nothing thinking. If you know what they are you can watch out for them and catch yourself when you’re thinking in all-or-nothing terms.

This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go

… why is it even still around? There’s a book from the 80’s called “Getting the Love You Want.” It’s been making the rounds on the self-help circuit and is championed by Oprah (Ref). Oprah sees it as powerful, I see it as taking away power. But the book is counterintuitive to personal growth. It’sContinue reading “This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go”

15 Cognitive Distortions, Why They Suck and How to Fix Them

Cognitive distortions and well-being clash. They’re like George W. Bush at a press conference and a Middle Eastern gentleman with a shoe. They just don’t work. So when we think in cognitive distortions, we undermine our mental and emotional well-being. Thankfully, we have the power to fix our mindset and get rid of the distortions.Continue reading “15 Cognitive Distortions, Why They Suck and How to Fix Them”

Self-Justification and Cognitive Dissonance Explained Using an Episode of the “Chilling Adventures of Sabrina”

Self-justification leads us down a destructive path. It keep us from growing and improving. It’s terrible energy, and can lead to harmful behaviors. Simply put, it sucks. Self-justification is easy to define (it’s literally when we justify our actions). But it’s not so easy to spot. So to stop this nasty habit, we need toContinue reading “Self-Justification and Cognitive Dissonance Explained Using an Episode of the “Chilling Adventures of Sabrina””

11 Compelling Quotes About the Power of Thoughts

It’s about time we focus on the power of our thoughts. After all, when you change your thoughts you can change your life. Below are quotes from great minds regarding the power of thought: 1. “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” Leo Tolstoy 2. “Nothing is good or bad,Continue reading “11 Compelling Quotes About the Power of Thoughts”

Why Thought Shifting Is the Game Changer You Need for Success…and How to Get Started

Thought Shifting Thought shifting is when we identify intrusive, unproductive and/or negative thoughts and replace them with positive, productive thoughts. Note: thought shifting focuses on replacing unproductive thoughts while other techniques (eg: mindfulness) focus on stopping the thought or allowing the thought to float away. Why Thought Shifting Is Key Our thoughts define how weContinue reading “Why Thought Shifting Is the Game Changer You Need for Success…and How to Get Started”