People have been emotionally manipulating others for ages. Probably since the beginning of time. Maybe they do it without realizing. Or maybe they think it’s OK. Whatever the case, they’re going to keep doing it until we no longer fall for it. A popular form of manipulation is either-or statements. But they don’t need toContinue reading “If Someone Says This They’re Trying to Manipulating You”
Certain words are associated with all-or-nothing thinking. If you know what they are you can watch out for them and catch yourself when you’re thinking in all-or-nothing terms.
Studies show that if you want to achieve goals and obtain mental & emotional well-being you need to focus on your thoughts.
… why is it even still around? There’s a book from the 80’s called “Getting the Love You Want.” It’s been making the rounds on the self-help circuit and is championed by Oprah (Ref). Oprah sees it as powerful, I see it as taking away power. But the book is counterintuitive to personal growth. It’sContinue reading “This Popular Book Lauded by Oprah Perpetuates Domestic Abuse. It’s Gotta Go”
All-or-nothing thinking is a cognitive distortion, meaning it’s a mental mind fuck. And the person your fucking is yourself. But this thinking spreads outward. And negatively impacts every area of your life including work and relationships. Thinking in all-or-nothing terms negatively impacts your mental and emotional well-being. And it’s likely a habit. This type ofContinue reading “All-or-Nothing Thinking: What It Is and How to Overcome It”
Cognitive distortions and well-being clash. They’re like George W. Bush at a press conference and a Middle Eastern gentleman with a shoe. They just don’t work. So when we think in cognitive distortions, we undermine our mental and emotional well-being. Thankfully, we have the power to fix our mindset and get rid of the distortions.Continue reading “15 Cognitive Distortions, Why They Suck and How to Fix Them”
Plus, how to change them. A lot of common beliefs are negatively impactful. They encourage distorted thinking and can wreak havoc on our mental and emotional well-being. When we’re aware of the harmful thoughts, we can reframe them to improve our mindset. The first step is spotting the little suckers. Below are 3 common andContinue reading “3 Common Beliefs You Need to Ditch ASAP”
Self-justification leads us down a destructive path. It keep us from growing and improving. It’s terrible energy, and can lead to harmful behaviors. Simply put, it sucks. Self-justification is easy to define (it’s literally when we justify our actions). But it’s not so easy to spot. So to stop this nasty habit, we need toContinue reading “Self-Justification and Cognitive Dissonance Explained Using an Episode of the “Chilling Adventures of Sabrina””
Inner child work is amazing—done right. A lot of the current, main-stream stuff is asinine. More about that here. When you want to start it can be confusing. And I don’t want you wasting your time thinking you need someone to talk to you like a little kid for it to work. So I’m goingContinue reading “How to Start Using Inner-Child Work With the Circle Technique”
Inner-child work focuses on childhood experiences to improve emotional and mental well-being. It helps us heal past trauma and uncover why we do the things we do. It’s relatively new and there are different variations. Not just for trauma, inner-child work will benefit anyone who uses it. It can help stop harmful patterns, remove blockersContinue reading “If You Read One Article About Inner-Child Work You Want to Read This One”